Psalm 127
New King James Version (NKJV)
Laboring and Prospering with the Lord
A Song of Ascents. Of Solomon.
127 Unless the Lord builds the house,
They labor in vain who build it;
Unless the Lord guards the city,
The watchman stays awake in vain.
2 It is vain for you to rise up early,
To sit up late,
To eat the bread of sorrows;
For so He gives His beloved sleep.
They labor in vain who build it;
Unless the Lord guards the city,
The watchman stays awake in vain.
2 It is vain for you to rise up early,
To sit up late,
To eat the bread of sorrows;
For so He gives His beloved sleep.
3 Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,
So are the children of one’s youth.
5 Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them;
They shall not be ashamed,
But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,
So are the children of one’s youth.
5 Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them;
They shall not be ashamed,
But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.
Wow do I love this chapter. The fruit of the womb is a reward, who turns down that? Reward: Strongs 7939 Hebrew word Sakar: Payment of contract, salary...what is owed you. Who would turn down a pay check? If you work 40 plus hours a week, you wouldn't go in on payday and refuse a paycheck, or turn down a raise. Most of us consider money, or a raise, a blessing, and most of us would never consider turning that down, why would we, it is what is due to us. And yet the Lord does not call money a blessing, but He does call children a blessing. So why do we turn that down, children, a blessing from God? Because we're selfish.
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior...happy is the man whose quiver is full of them....then it talks about speaking with their enemies at the gate, which is an opening where things come out, and things go in. If we give our inheritance away, to be plundered by the enemy, or to be spent on ourselves, what will we have left?
Goodbye to Beethoven?
Many people have talked about Beethoven. How his parents chose to have him even though their previous children were born with serious problems. Many people have speculated that if that same situation were to happen today that no one in the right minds would allow that child to even be considered because there had been so many problems with their previous births. So, goodbye Beethoven? There have been studies that show some of our greatest contributors have been the sixth, seventh or even eighth child in a family. Many have wondered what we have missed out on by choosing ourselves to only have 2.5 children.
It has been said that the average family size is 2.5 children in industrialized nations like America. If we are choosing to not receive the blessing of an eighth child, what type of reward are we turning down? Could it be the one child that would have cared for us enough to take care of us in our old age? Would he or she have discovered the cure for cancer? What did we miss out on by now allowing The Lord full control of how many children we have?
It is not mine to fashion the arrow. The Lord Himself "molds us and shapes us in our mothers womb." (psalm 119:73. Jeremiah 1:5) If the arrow does not fly true, is it something I as a father have mistakenly placed on them that has caused their miss flight? An arrow is a simply designed thing, much like a mousetrap. It only has 4 parts and each is crucial to it's purpose. There is the head, shaft, fletching (The feathers in back) and notch. (The part where the arrow connects to the bow string)
I do not need to improve on it's design, nor do I =need to add anything to it for its intended purpose.
But as a dad, I try and do that with my children. I correct them in ways they were never meant to be corrected I end up changing their very design so they no longer fly straight "As an arrow." Happy is the man whose quiver is full of them.
When I change things with my fleshly understanding instead of the hand of Almighty God doing the fashioning, there can be no good that will come if it. Children, if everything goes right, come out fully fashioned and formed, ready to be those cute little arrows God has planned for them from the beginning. He even has their purposes all laid out, all we have to do as dads is get out of the way and allow Him full control of how, and when they fly.
Think of a falcon about to be release by its master. The falcon sits on the glove, or the post and waits to be released. When it is, it flys and is free. There are no encumbrances to it's take off, just a glove to protect the hand of the master, or a post that it perches on so it's flight is not impeded.
We impede the flight f our little arrows by our controlling and manipulating them into things that they were not created to be. Isn't it easier to work with the metal when it's hot and ready to be formed rather than a piece of steel that is already hardened and fashioned. God has our children in His hands. If we just listen to His voice and follow His instructions, our little arrows will turn out just fine.
But what about the prodigal arrow?
Is it our arrow, or God's? Who fashioned those little arrows, us or Him? Who can add or take away from what God has done? I am reminded of watching a movie that was based on a book by C.S Lewis. They changed it. I heartily dislike that when they do that. You have one of the most gifted writers of our time, and yet someone can come along and think they can make his story better. Do we really think we are better than the Master? Do we really believe we can improve on His design! If we add or take away from God's design it will never be better, and usually it will be a disaster. An arrow was fashioned with one thing in mind. To hit it's intended target. If we try and change the design of our children, who they were made to be, it will never work for their better. If we think we can control their lives and make it better than GOd could if He were in charge, we will never get it right, because He already has it right. he has all their plans already fashioned,He has their lives already mapped out, we just need to come along side His plan or them and support them in what they are supposed to do, and gently, humbly correct them when they get off His track.
Why do we hold to the first part of the verse above, and not employ the last part? This is a stand alone chapter, this is it, it's very short, and it's all there. There's no misinterpreting, it's all there. Unless The Lord builds the house, we will labor in vain! Unless God guards the city of our hearts and lives, we will watch in vain. God ties children into this verse. How many of us feel heavy burdens that The Lord never intended us to bear simply because we didn't let Him choose our family, and how He wanted it to turn out? What happens when I overstep my bounds and not let my wife do what she was intended to do. Look out, we're in for danger! My wife is one of the most gifted, lovely, honorable, humble women I have ever met. She fulfills the Proverbs 31 version of what a wife and mother are to be as good as anyone I have ever seen. And because God picked her out for me, she is also better suited than anyone in all of creation to fulfill her roll as wife and mother of our children. You know, those sweet little arrows we've been talking about. Their not mine, and their not my wife's, so whose are they anyway?
I keep think ing it's all about me, and it never has been, or was meant to be. How many of the things do I do, just for me? Tons. What I eat, what I wear, what I watch, listen to. Most of the things throughout my life are for me, but I've always wanted to live my life to serve others, to bless others, so what stops me? My flesh, my old man that was supposed to be crucified with Christ so it's not longer me living, but Christ in me. (Gal 2:20)
What more do I need? God's building blocks for our house.
Am I happy my quiver is full of them, children, or am I burdened to even think of having another, after only two have come? Back to Psalm 127. I don't want to labor in vain, yet why am I not willing to fulfill the last part of that scripture, while praying the first part. Think of it. If I don't want more kids, or kids at all, am I being selfish with my time or resources? Have I chose what my family size is based on my perception of God's provision, or am I worried about His lack of provision? Isn't The God who placed the stars in the sky to shine, without even thinking about it, they just shine. Isn't he able to do the same with us? Does He have the authority in your life to build the house the way He wants? If we are interfering with His plans with our lives, do we actually expect God to provide for us, to meet our needs, or should we expect to be laboring in vain?
How can adding to my already overburdened load, make my load lighter?
God promises that; Matt 11:" 28 Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
This verse is true. No matter what is happening in my life this is true. If we receive His yoke (The work that He has fashioned for us) and receive only His burden for us, it will be easy and light. So this is not baed on a numbering system. So if we allow Him control how many kids we have, it will be an easy yoke and a light burden, it is His promise for us, just like He promises we will labor in vain unless He builds our house.
What have I done?
If I am a selfish man, can I really expect my son to be any different? If I am totally given to pride or lust, should I really expect my children to be any different. They will follow my example now matter what I say. Our lives are supposed to examples of "Christ in us the hope of glory." (Col 1:27) If we examine our children, they are like mirrors of ourselves. Look in the mirror, (2 Cor 13:5) examine yourself, are you who God made you to be, that bright shining star whom God has made to shine brightly so that people may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. All of our examples of what we should be is found in Christ, there is not other. So we need to let Him shine through us, let Him work through us, so we can bring glory God, the reason why we're made.
What have I done?
If I am a selfish man, can I really expect my son to be any different? If I am totally given to pride or lust, should I really expect my children to be any different. They will follow my example now matter what I say. Our lives are supposed to examples of "Christ in us the hope of glory." (Col 1:27) If we examine our children, they are like mirrors of ourselves. Look in the mirror, (2 Cor 13:5) examine yourself, are you who God made you to be, that bright shining star whom God has made to shine brightly so that people may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. All of our examples of what we should be is found in Christ, there is not other. So we need to let Him shine through us, let Him work through us, so we can bring glory God, the reason why we're made.